Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Domestic Violence - Zero Tolerance

As most of you know my son is studying and in training to be a police officer.
I have just come back from a Southern vacation, haven't seen him in almost a month
 and was glad to spent the day with him.
As always, I am so interested in what he is learning in school. 
Law and order.....it really can be interesting stuff.

He was telling me today, that in one of his courses Constables/Officers must assess the 3 levels of assault.

  Each Level has a definition of what constitutes as a Level 1, 2, or 3.
These Levels are laid out and determined under the Criminal Code of Canada.

Domestic violence/spousal abuse IS a form of assault. It is included as part of the 3 Levels of assault.
The severity of the crime (how bad the beating/situation is) determines it's Level.
The worse the crime is, the higher the Level, same as any other assault. 

My son said that our Police crackdown very heavy on domestic abusers.
Zero tolerance.


It is a way of curving domestic violence.  Zero tolerance in abuse against woman.
*I want to insert a note here....for the purpose of the conversation between my son and I it was sadly, violence against woman.*
 Domestic abuse INCLUDES verbal and emotional abuse, as well.

These charges apply to either male or female.  Whoever the abuser.
  Although women probably do have a higher percentage of domestic abuse.
Personal violence, long term violence or abuse in the home is not as high as Canada Crime Stats would tell you.
Men might feel emasculated if they tell the police,  or anyone else, that they are being abused.
Some woman may not feel they have the "outside" help to support themselves and their children.
Fear to report the crime to authorities.

The Partner Assault Response (PAR) program 
"A court-ordered domestic violence program funded by the Ministry of the Attorney General. PAR promotes non-violent and non-controlling attitudes and behaviours for men and women who have assaulted their partners (past or present). The program encourages men and women to recognize and accept responsibility for their assaultive behaviour. It assists participants in changing their belief system about power and control issues."
Ministry of the Attorney General

I asked him if Police on all levels of policing in this country can lay these charges.
And yes, officers of Regional Police, OPP (Ontario Provincial Police) and RCMP (Royal Canadian Mounted Police) can lay domestic assault charges.

Domestic abuse has to stop and a zero tolerance policy is a good place to start.
You really can not escape the long arm of the law.

I do not know the laws of domestic violence in other countries, but I am assuming they are all the same.
Zero tolerance.

On the news when I read or hear about a woman who dies at the hands of an angry man,
it effects me greatly, very disturbing.  It is depressing.
Kudos to all Police and individuals who take a strong stand against it.

The 911 Pizza Order
Here is a story from a 911 Operator...
"911, where is you emergency?"
"123 Main St."
"Ok, what's going on there?"
"I'd like to order a pizza for delivery." (oh great, another prank call).
"Ma'am, you've reached 911"
"Yeah, I know. Can I have a large with half pepperoni, half mushroom and peppers?"
"Ummm…. I'm sorry, you know you've called 911 right?"
"Yeah, do you know how long it will be?"
"Ok, Ma'am, is everything ok over there? do you have an emergency?"
"Yes, I do."
"..And you can't talk about it because there's someone in the room with you?" (moment of realization)
"Yes, that's correct. Do you know how long it will be?"
"I have an officer about a mile from your location. Are there any weapons in your house?"
"Can you stay on the phone with me?"
"Nope. See you soon, thanks"

To get help call 1-888-579-2888.
For additional information on  programs and services for victims of crime and their families,
Or call 911

Let's hear from you if you have additional info to add.
Correct me if any of the above is different.

No matter where you live, contact your local Emergency Services for help.
Here in Canada and the United States dial 911.

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  1. My son is a police officer in the USA. We also have zero tolerance. My son says the most frustrating thing is when he is called out and after he arrives on scene, the victim changes her/his mind and will not press charges against the abuser. He says he will eventually be called again to the same address and usually the injuries are much worse the second time--sometimes fatal. So sad.

  2. Well done to your son. Such a noble profession, keeping us all safe xx

  3. I am SOOOO with you on this!!! Kudos to you for publishing this post and to your son for getting out there to make a difference!!
    We also have zero tolerance laws...however, I work in a law office and I KNOW that the fact of a law and the protection of it, are sadly two different things. NO living being should have to suffer abuse, but there are a lot of us who do/have! And yes, verbal and emotional abuse...particularly by a spouse....are just as bad or worse than physical abuse. Sadly too, are the people who feel as if they "deserve" the abuse or feel as if they are in a situation that they canNOT escape.
    Thank you again for speaking out!
    and yes, I was on the receiving end for a number of years, so I can get a bit huffy with this subject :^)